Visiting someone in the hospital is a little daunting but really one of the most thoughtful things one can do for a friend or loved one. Whether they are in for a short stay or longer recovery, your being there may mean so much to them. There are, however, a few things to keep in mind in order to make the visit smooth and comforting to everyone concerned.
Here is what you need to know to make the most from your visit to the hospital:
The hospitals have their schedule, and so do the patients. Your loved one may be going through procedures, tests, or they may just need some rest. It's always a good idea to check the visiting hours before you visit, but even better, ask when would be a good time for them. They could be too tired for long visits or have specific times when they are feeling their best.
As much as they'll love to see you, too-long visits may be very tiresome for a person in recovery. It is quite impossible to eliminate all interruptions since hospitals are filled with these—nurses coming in, medication times, and check-ups—so just try to make your visit brief. Even 15-20 minutes of your time can mean a whole lot without overwhelming them.
It's always nice to bring something thoughtful, but remember, hospital rooms aren't exactly spacious. Keep gifts simple and practical. A soft blanket, some comforting snacks, or a good book can brighten anyone's day. But don't bring big bouquets or bulky items that could add clutter to an already tight space.
It's important to be prepared that your loved one might not feel like talking or be tired during your visit. And if they start to appear tired, please don't take it personally. Say something like, "You know what? Why don't you take a little rest?" or "Why don't I just step out now?" Sometimes the greatest thing you can do for the patient is to be attentive to their energy levels and needs.
While it's good to remain upbeat and positive, sometimes it's okay to validate where they are. A simple, "How are you really feeling?" can open the door for them to share if they're comfortable. But try to keep the conversation light, focusing on happy distractions or things that will lift their spirits without ignoring their reality.
Hospitals are virtual petri dishes of germs, and the last thing you want to do is bring in—or take home—an infection. Wash your hands when you arrive, before you touch anything in the room, and when you leave. If the hospital provides hand sanitizer, use it liberally. It's a small step that can go a long way toward protecting both the patient and you.
You might want to jump in and do anything you can to help in any way, but ask first. The patient might be on a certain regimen of care or have a routine they're sticking to. Whether it is fluffing their pillows or offering to get them something, just check with the patient or a nurse first before you do anything to make sure it's truly helpful.
Hospitals are places of quietness, at least most of the time. The last thing a sick or recovering person needs is a ringing ringtone or buzzing notifications every now and then. Make sure your phone is silenced or put on vibrate before going in the room. This keeps the atmosphere serene and free from superfluous distractions.
Just remember, it isn't only the patient who may require a little love—family members and caregivers are sure to be exhausted, too. Often, it is just a kind word, a cup of coffee, or asking how they're holding up that means much. They may welcome a small break when you are there, even if it's just to step outside for a few minutes.
If you happen to be feeling under the weather, even just the common cold, then it's best that you visit later on. The hospitals are filled with people whose immune systems are compromised, and that tiny bug that for you would be nothing serious may be serious for them. Instead, send them a thoughtful text or give them a call, letting them know you're thinking about them, and you will visit once you are feeling better.
Sometimes, presence will do. You do not have to put pressure on yourself to make every moment lively with talk or amusement. Often, quiet is a great comfort, particularly when your loved one is tired or in pain. Sometimes just sitting by their side and holding their hand can say much.
Your visit isn't over after you leave the hospital. A text or a call the day or two following a visit will check in to see how they are doing. It's just a small gesture, but it reminds them that you are still thinking of them and can provide a sense of continuity for them as they recover.
It is very considerate to visit someone in the hospital, but consider making the patient's needs the focus of your visit. When you are thoroughly prepared and a little more aware of what you're doing, you can easily make your presence feel comforting and be a hopeful part of their process of recovery. After all, it may mean much more than you appreciate at times—even in those quiet moments.
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